- has_many :messages, :foreign_key => :to_user_id, :order => 'sent_on DESC'
- has_many :new_messages, :class_name => "Message", :foreign_key => :to_user_id, :conditions => "message_read = 0", :order => 'sent_on DESC'
- has_many :friends
+ has_many :messages, :foreign_key => :to_user_id, :conditions => { :to_user_visible => true }, :order => 'sent_on DESC'
+ has_many :new_messages, :class_name => "Message", :foreign_key => :to_user_id, :conditions => { :to_user_visible => true, :message_read => false }, :order => 'sent_on DESC'
+ has_many :sent_messages, :class_name => "Message", :foreign_key => :from_user_id, :conditions => { :from_user_visible => true }, :order => 'sent_on DESC'
+ has_many :friends, :include => :befriendee, :conditions => ["users.visible = ?", true]